The word sobriety is most commonly used to describe the absence of alcohol or drugs. In common vernacular, it generally means to abstain from the use of intoxicants.
Looking up the word on a dictionary, it also means "clearheadedness" among other things.
I feel that becoming aware of our intoxicants can be a very sobering experience, even when our intoxicants are not drugs or alcohol.
I recently came across a very different experience...
While on a heightened state of awareness during a long meditation session, I came to the realization that being sober can be a powerful tool, even when there's no use of the usual intoxicants.
Sometimes our intoxicants are us. Sometimes our intoxicants are other people.
Essentially, whatever is preventing us from fully being present and seeing things for what they are (being that us or other people) is what's keeping us in a fog, intoxicated and preventing us from fully being ourselves.
Yes, giving up caffeine can help our adrenals, giving up bad food can helps us get leaner and healthier. But what if what we need to give up or become sober of is our own thoughts (our ego) or the negative behavioral patterns of other people? You know, people that intoxicate us, people that act like irritants, always robbing us from our own peace of mind.
It can be a tough type of sobriety because we have to change the way we think (if the problem is our thoughts) or change our relationships with other people. Truthfully; the other person, the intoxicant, may be fully unaware of how his or her's actions can be affecting our lives in a negative way.
As hard as it may be, when in the process of finding out who we are, what we want and how to use our focus to get there, we need to open ourselves up to shedding some old habits that robbed us of clarity.
Only when we are open to being fully aware, fully sober and fully honest with ourselves we can adjust our old behaviours and become light and free to take the actions that will build us up.
It's sort of like pruning. Plants need it so they can grow stronger.
We all have our sobering truths...
The question is: how willing and open are you to take action on the lessons this type of sobriety may bring forth?
If you're ready to get to work, I am here to be your coach!